Getting the most from a Counseling Group

Define your goals. Think about what you would like to get out of the group. Take time before each session to define your expectations for that session. Group members and the leader(s) can help you with this.
Recognize and respect your own pace. Some group members will always be ready to disclose their thoughts and feelings; others need more time to gain feelings of trust and security. By respecting your need to become involved when ready, you are learning self- acceptance.

Allow yourself to ask for group time. Some group members hesitate to take the time to disclose their concerns because they feel that others need the time or they question the importance of what they have to say. Many people experience this feeling and it may be important to use group to figure out what this means in your life.

Focus on what is most important to you. You are encouraged to talk about whatever is important to you: relationships with significant others, questions about life goals and directions, childhood memories, dreams and feelings about yourself. As you talk about these concerns, the group will be helping you to recognize themes and patterns so that these can be dealt with more directly.

Recognize and express feelings. The recognition, acceptance and expression of feelings pave the way for personal growth and change. Group may be helpful in aiding you in integrating your thoughts and emotions in a balanced manner.

Be an active group member. Although most group leaders like to have a group of active participants, you need to determine how active and involved you want to be. Express your reactions and share your support, but also listen and reflect on what you're learning.

Take risks. The group setting is an excellent place to experiment with different ways of behaving and expressing yourself. By taking risks, you can discover what works for you and what doesn't.

Be patient with yourself. Growth takes time, effort, and patience. All of your coping skills have been learned and reinforced over a long period of time. Keep in mind that changing what has become such as integral part of yourself can be a difficult and slow process.